The key here is YOU get to choose.
Want a real-life example of what this might look like? Read on …
It’s parent’s evening tonight and one of my delightful offspring (who shall remain nameless! 😉) started to talk about what I could and couldn’t wear.
Multi-coloured poncho? Out!
Snowball jumper? Nope!
“Arty-farty” floaty top? “If you must!”
Christmas jumper which I’ve cleverly renamed a “Winter” jumper so I can keep wearing it until Spring? No!
Now here’s the thing … as easy as I find it to embarrass my three, I don’t do it on purpose. (Stop laughing, I really don’t!)
But I also refuse to be anyone other than me so I got dressed this morning in another of my favourite jumpers, a lovely purple number with tiny little rainbows on that I had from my mum & dad for Christmas.
I love it, I still get to be me, and I don’t embarrass anyone. (Well, not with my outfit choice at least. It remains to be seen what impact I make simply by my very existence! 😉)
But I chose and as a result, I don’t feel squashed or made to play small and sure, that might seem like a mere semantics trick but I dare you to try it yourself and see how it fits you.